“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” Matthew
5:4
It is all about the grief, how we deal with it, cope with it
…live with it. Grief happens after you
lose someone or some thing to which a bond was formed. We all have losses and it is how we deal with
them, which can cause us so much pain, sometimes so deep it reaches our
soul. But think if just for a moment, if
we change our attitude toward loss and look at it in a different way, from a
different point of view such as gain, it may not hurt as much. The pain will still be there but joy can
accompany it, softening and gentling the hurt.
I have experienced great loss… my parents, my grandparents, my
friends, my pets, my business and disappointments which accompanied me on my
journey and with each one there was an experience of grieving.
When Dad died I was truly devastated. Watching his body being ravaged by cancer
until he became as emaciated as a rail can leave you with a bitter taste in
your mouth and a pain in your stomach.
Your lungs and heart feel like they could explode from the deep pain you
feel, helplessness is your companion.
There is nothing you can do to take the cancer away but there is
something you can do to ease the pain and grief.
You take care of the person and you listen to what they have
to say. You can gather information about
the family history and you can listen to the stories they want to tell,
sometimes over and over. You can rub
their back, cream their skin with coconut oil, do energy healing and pray,
pray, pray. You can ease their pain,
take them to their doctor’s appointment and sit in the garden watching them
take their last breaths of fresh air and rays of sunlight. You can gather as a family, not necessarily a
blood relation, and pray together to ask for ease of pain and suffering. The
suffering and grief of the family can be eased a wee bit when you take over the
responsibilities of traveling to doctor appointments, making nourishing meals
and giving support that they desperately need as they grieve the
inevitable. Jesus, the Angels and Divine
Masters always willing to give the support needed as we invoke their help. Not only do we ease their pain and suffering
but we ease ours as we look towards the light and the joy of the afterlife…no
longer will there be suffering but a life of complete bliss forever.
The Spirit of Life is greater than the Spirit of Death if
you let it in. You allow the death
process to happen with dignity and just as the person dying has to relinquish
control and accept the journey home, so do you. When you are able to do this
the grieving process can be a time of healing for you and a time of
enlightenment and knowledge of the circle of life, a time of going home to
eternal life… joyful for all.
Recently a friend went home
to eternal life. She taught us how to
love with her pure heart and undying faith in the Lord Jesus and Mary, His
mother. Her charitable nature unbound,
she brought her friends together as sisters and her life and faith was a lesson
for all of us. Tessie will always live
on in our hearts forever as sure as there are stars in the sky!
